Wholesale      -      Free Shipping to Worldwide.    -    Crazy Only Subscribe Cart Get 90% OFF    -    100% Privacy Shopping, PayPal Safe Checkout.

Beginners Guide to Bondage: Part 1 - 6 Essential Items

Nothing against 50 Shades of Grey; not in the least – If it encourages other women to experiment and open up about their sex lives, then that is awesome and a very impressive feat for any book. However, it is still a fictional book with plenty of fantasy in it. Whilst some heated sexual encounters are passionate and spur of the moment, those that take you out of your comfort zone might take some preplanning. If the idea of bondage, being tied up, being submissive or being dominant has turned you and you are curious as to what one would need to begin, the list isn’t very long. More more experienced aficionados there are a wide variety of tools and toys that enhance and take the experience to a new level, but they can be incredibly intimidating to someone who is just discovering a new side to sex. So, to that end, I will be publishing a guide to bondage, in a series of parts – Starting at the very beginning and working my way up. So, what do we need for a smooth (and rough) start? (Please note: Under each section there will be a recommended product – they have been thoroughly researched and recommended. Click on the image to be go to that product page if you are interested in purchasing or getting more information)

 

1. Rope

 

Rope. The staple ingredient in any bondage and BDSM scenario. We all have some rope somewhere in our house right? But maybe it is too rough or hard, and the thought isn’t too appealing. If you have got sensitive skin, or are more into the idea of being restrained as opposed to experiencing any pain, buying bondage rope is a must.

The Pros:

  • The material is soft. It will not chafe your skin, or leave marks the next day (a deal breaker for some).
  • Washable. If it gets dirty, you get lube on it, whatever – You can wash it. Add some fabric softener to get it extra soft on your skin.
  • Its rope. The uses are endless!

The Cons:

  • Comes in specific lengths (Although they are generally more than adequate, but just so you know before hand – it’s normally 6 – 10 meters)
  • Needs to be specially ordered – So yeah, it might not be there right in time for when the urge strikes, but it will definitely be there the next.
  • Besides rope, you could use some of those infamous ties as make shift restraints that will leave no lasting marks – they work well, but obviously not for anything complicated or with extensive knots.

If you do not want to buy specialty rope just yet, make do with nylon rope that can be found at hardware stores, make sure it is sturdy and quite thick so it won’t cut into your skin! What kind of rope do I recommend? One that comes in several colors! Japanese Bondage Rope below: 

I have tested this product and can attest to its comfort, durability, flexibility, usefulness and all-around great value for money. Highly recommended.

-----------------------------------------------

 

2. Handcuffs

 

Also a staple item – The difference from rope being that whilst rope can tie you/your partner into various positions as well as to many items, handcuffs can either cuff your hands together, or one hand to another item (i.e. bed). There are three main type of handcuff restraints:

The classic ‘cop’ metal handcuffs

The Pros:

  • Cheap. They’re normally much cheaper than other types of cuffs
  • They’re quick and easy to put on
  • Great for role play

The Cons:

  • They have no padding, obviously – So they can cause discomfort and some bruising, depending. If you enjoy a bit of pain, then it is not an issue, but the bruising can be a bit awkward the next day.
  • Most are flimsy and will break easily, which will ruin the mood.

Looking for good solid set that won’t break themselves, your hands or the bank? Look below:

Padded Cuffs

The Pros:

  • Sturdy. They are much wider than traditional cuffs, so they won’t leave any marks, but they will definitely restrain.
  • Have more padding – Depending on the cuff, some are very lushly padded for comfort, some less so – but they are all softer than metal.
  • Most have velcro closings so a custom fit can be achieved

The Cons:

  • More expensive than the cheap metal handcuffs, but not exorbitantly priced by any means
  • Watch out for the metal chain connecting the cuff; if they are not well made, that can break if you get wild.

A good-looking well padded set with great reviews and a great price?

The ones on the left are more heavy duty than the ones on the right. The ones on the right are adjustable to be used on ankles and as a blindfold as well

 

. Not technically a handcuff: Bondage tape

 

This is a relatively new product – It is PVC tape that sticks only to itself. That means it doesn’t stick toy your skin or hair like normal tape does, is easy to put on and remove, and is reusable. Great for makeshift restraints, and even more extensive bondage. definitely work well as cuffs, and you can always keep a roll discreetly in your bag. I mean, it looks like tape! The Pros:

  • Non-stick, reusable
  • Easily portable
  • Cheap & efficient
  • A discrete item that won’t arouse suspicion

The Cons:

  • Not a replacement for rope in complicated bondage positions
  • If you’re clumsy and tape seems to be one of your worst enemies (hand in the air), this could potentially aggregate you in a totally non sexual manner.

Where to buy it (Comes in some awesome colors!):

 

-----------------------------------

 

3. Blindfold

 

A beginners tool to sensory deprivation, and beloved by many. Sensory deprivation might sound like some kind of torture, but it is just the act of ‘depriving’ one sense, such as sight, to enhance the others. Like when you walk in a dark room, and become much more alert and aware of sounds and any tiny change. But instead, with more sex and less stepping on sharp objects and cursing (there can still be cursing). A good blindfold should not let light through, and should be comfortable on and around the eyes of the wearer. Scarves and eye masks can work well as blindfolds, but if you want something that you can be sure will stay on and not slide off at the wrong moment, take a look below:

 

 

------------------------------

 

4. A flogger

 

Sounds painful! But it doesn’t have to be. Some people are interested in the actual bondage aspect of BDSM, and some are interested in the sadomasochism part of it as well. A flogger can easily appeal to both groups. My suggestion for a first time flogger is one with satin strips. (You can also get one with latex strings as a light flogger, but they get tangled up and are a pain in a whole different way) The satin strips still make the satisfying ‘whoosh’ sound through the air that sounds intimidating and exciting, especially to someone who is blindfolded, but at most will only leave a quick sting and tingle. And since they’re satin, they can also be used during foreplay for running along your partners skin, etc. The Pros: 

  • Non intimidating
  • Not painful enough to discourage newcomers
  • Can be used for sensual touching, not just flogging

The Cons:

 

  • Might not be enough for an individual with high pain threshold or is more experienced
  • If item is made of suede or leather, it is not vegetarian-friendly: Look for pleather/vinyl and other fabrics.

The same applies for mixed fabric floggers, such as this suede and faux fur one:

 

The faux fur keeps things soft and gentle, with the suede provides a sting – Meaning it can be used both sensually and with a slight bite, depending on what you want. Next up is one made of suede:

 

For when you know what you want, and you want it to look good at the same time! (Also available in other colors)

------------------------------

 

5. Massage Candle

Surprise surprise! It’s not all about the rope and leather and weird scary implements. This is a few levels below candle and wax play, but definitely goes along those lines. Just with no pain. Light the candle, enjoy its aroma for a few minutes… And then you can drip the warm oil from the candle onto your partner and give them a massage. The oil is not -hot-, so you/your partner won’t be uncomfortable or get burnt, but the dripping hot wax oil is for most, a totally new sensation. The droplets are unexpected, and if you/your partner are blindfolded, you won’t know when to expect them and that will keep the anticipation building. Once the massage is over, the wax will harder and can easily be peeled off. Recommended:

 

Bonus: It is all natural, and full of those fancy oils that make your skin baby soft.

------------------------------

6. A book!

No, not 50 shades of Grey. Well, read that if you want, but then read another book. An informative factual one. If you are interested in the many aspects and styles of BDSM and bondage, it would be wise to learn more from reputable sources. That way you can get the how and why answers to questions and fears you may have, and get quite a few new ideas along the way. For those who don’t want to purchase a book with a tied up naked woman on the cover (Nosey kids, nosey neighbors, nosey in-laws…) – There are two excellent books on the subject, whose covers are very boring and do nothing at all to entice nosey people to read through them.

 

 

Safe word and paramedic scissors (cause once someone starts panicing, it can go bad really really quickly)

Guide Type: